It’s hard not to get sucked in to the constant race of business and the world, never ending and never slowing down. So, take a moment and look at drawing my 7yr old son did a while back:
He called this Darth Vader – you know, the big evil bad guy from Star Wars?
I have no idea what the spiky things are, or why Darth Vader is smiling… but I love this drawing. It hangs above the entryway to my bedroom with other drawings that my kids have done. And it’s the little things like this drawing, the way my son demands (and screams if he doesn’t get it) that I tuck him in to bed at night, or the way my daughter wanders in to my room at 1:30am crying “i want to lay down with you!!!” because she had a bad dream… these are the things that are really important, and are a constant reminder of the good life that I live – that is, when I stop to remember them.
A Kick In The Butt, To Stop Kicking Butt
A few months ago, Jarrod Drysdale wrote a piece on “Living the life” – asking the question, “If you were living the good life, would you even notice?”
It was this email / post that got me really thinking about my life and where I am today. It helps to have someone else kick you in the butt like this, sometimes, and I’m glad I received this email from Jarrod. I ended up emailing him back and forth for a while, about this subject. It was good to talk with him and have someone help me to see the good things that I have going, and the privileges that I enjoy.
It’s easy to complain, to think the world owes you something, and to become a bitter and cynical person (which generally describes my outlook on life, anyways…) but when you slow down a bit, and stop trying to kick something’s butt 24 hours a day because you think that’s what the world demands, it becomes easier to see how good your life is.
Struggles and Privilege
There’s a strong chance that you have a very good life compared to most of the world. I can say this with confidence because you are reading this. You have access to the internet in some manner, and likely have some life related to technology and/or software development.
Yes, we all have struggles. Some of us more than others. Many of you more than me, no doubt. Yes, our problems and our struggle are real, but our lives are simple and privileged by comparison to most. I may have problems keeping my bank account positive, at times, but I have a bank account and a (somewhat) successful business or three. I may have a special needs son, but he is happy and loves to spend time with me. I may not have as many customers as I want for WatchMeCode, but I am incredibly privileged to be able to sell educational material to begin with.
Sometimes it’s hard to recognize that we are living a good life – a privileged life – in the middle of what we consider to be difficult struggles. But the standards by which we live mean that we have a better life than most. I know I do… and sometimes, I even remember it.